What do you spend the most time thinking about?
How to share information on ways we can exude warmth and build trust with others through the effective use of soft skills of communication despite diverse beliefs, ideologies, attitudes.
What is something you will NEVER do again?
I can’t think of anything that I will NEVER do again. I guess it’s safe to say that I’m a risk taker…😊
What are some of the events in your life that made you who you are?
Getting married early in life at age 19 years, coming to America and going through and overcoming marital difficulties to remarry 8 years later to my current husband has been a blessing in disguise. Through my 2 marriages, I have 4 beautiful daughters (ages 28, 18, 13 and 8 years) and from each daughter, I have learned the life skills for daily living (defiance, strength, compassion, and persistence)
What is the strangest thing you have come across?
As humans, no one is perfect, and we are inherently plagued by human inadequacies. However, I find it strange that trying to point out some of the faults that exist in the USA (especially as a human of African descent), could get one to be easily labelled as racist rather than a realist.
What are you addicted to?
I am addicted to singing praises to the Lord and praying.
As you get older, what are you becoming more and more afraid of?
I’m becoming more afraid that technological advancements in communication will gradually erode the human qualities (vulnerabilities & transparencies) that enable us to form more genuine connections with heart to heart honest interactions.
What song or artist do you like but rarely admit to liking?
I like Frank Edwards music. Recently, I am beginning to like Afro beats songs from many Nigerian artists as Flavor, PSquared, Davido (I think that’s his name?? 😊)
If life is a game as some people say, what are some of the rules?
In the game of life, always bring your “A” game but know that it may sometimes not be good enough to secure a win, but never give up….keep trying.
What’s the most surprising self-realization you’ve had?
That I’m able to gain people’s attention and trust by helping to create a tranquil environment through modes of engagement by utilizing various effective communication styles.
What do you regret not doing?
I don’t really have any regrets yet about not doing something….and hopefully it stays that way.
What gives your life meaning?
Being able to have a patient who was initially reluctant to engage with me, display diminished anxiety while becoming comfortable during his/her clinical consultation with me and at the end, say “Thank you” with a warm smile/hand shake and truly mean it.
What are you most insecure about?
My biggest fear is to age without grace, especially with the new grey hairs I’m suddenly getting each month 😊!
How do you get in the way of your own success?
By sometimes being an overachiever, I get in the way of my success. I must remind myself to stop and smell the roses occasionally.
What are you afraid people see when they look at you?
I’m afraid that many may not take my message seriously because of its very simple and yet easily applicable format.
What’s one thing you did you really wish you could go back and undo?
I once blurted out in an interview that I am very friendly and easy to talk to and following that appearance, received many marriage proposals! It was a teachable moment as I now tread lightly to maintain that fine line between being approachable and yet being happily married.
When do you feel truly alive?
When I am worshipping with my whole being.
What do you like most about your family?
My family’s ever intriguing story reflects who I am and my purpose on earth.